ASK BELLA: LOVE ADVICE AT OUR OWN RISK

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Dear Bella: My new boyfriend keeps asking me to do something I don't like.  What should I do as I really care for him?

Truth from Bella: Don't do anything you don't want to.  You'll regret it.  I had that problem too so I got rid of him and got a new boyfriend who didn't ask me to do things I didn't or don't like.  Next.


Dear Bella:  My baby's daddy has a new girlfriend but keeps coming to see me and gets mad when I ignore him or date someone else.  I care for him but it's over.  He still tries to hang around my family..  He doesn't get it.  No me, no family.  In addition to that he plots with them to ruin my career and has dated almost all of them.  He's really crazy.  I broke up with him because he listens to my mom and not me.

Truth from Bella: Ignore him.  He'll get the picture.  They should know better.  Your family I mean.

Question to Bella:  How does it feel to be an up and coming celebrity?

Answer:  Right now it feels like I'm playing a part in a movie because of all that is happening in my life but I'm really just grateful for all of those people and companies who believed in me and have revealed a little of my story or just thought I was someone they could even invest in.  They saw the value in me and took chances and went against the grain.  That takes courage.  I'm forever grateful. I feel like I've been immortalized.

What about being a media target?

Answer: Most celebrities are targets however, with today's technology it's getting really weird and
almost anyone can get information about you.  Unfortunately, a lot of people use technology for
hurting others or infringing on their privacy.  It depends on the situation and there are always rules to follow.

It also makes way for people who are listening in to be very critical of the things you say.  I just have to remember that no one is perfect and that my thoughts are just that and people say things they don't mean to say sometimes. That's why that's a dangerous thing to do, target people.  People may try and hurt you because they feel you've hurt them but if they put themselves in your shoes I think they'd get it. The technology can also cause swelling in your body and damage to your skin and face and causes hair loss.  Skin oil of some type is good to prevent damage to your skin. Some people use it to get even because they feel you've hurt them or just because
they don't like you or they're jealous. My doctors have also noticed a difference in my appearance such as swelling of my nose.  Some days I don't look like myself at all and look rather average however, I'm a very attractive person.  I've received a lot of hate but I am.

Are you religious?

I'm spiritual and believe people have the right to believe in whatever religion they want to.  You don't have to agree. It becomes critical and possibly even deadly when people result to violence just because someone has different beliefs.  I believe in expressing yourself.


Someone asked: I am always being audited and harassed by the govt' since starting my media business and I found that my ex-boyfriend was in the military and had received orders to investigate. Another friend of mine I dated was also with the govt or CIA and we had to part because he was trying to set me up with the police and defend his family to cover up their abuses to me and my family.  How do I defend myself against this? He also tried to date my ex husband but we are starting to believe they are still trying to make me upset so they can put me in jail as a lot of them are trying to hide their secrets.  .  I think he must be in some kind of trouble but I can't help him.  How do I end this?...

Answer: Clearly this is a conflict of interest.  He has to know this can not continue.

It is nearly impossible to prosper in any way or form when you are surrounded by those who are constantly criticising you.  Constructive criticism is always good if it comes from someone you know that has your best interest at heart and are not motivated by getting something for themselves.  Remove people from your life who are causing you to view life as being bland or who make you feel your dreams are impossible to achieve or that you don't deserve them.  As soon as you do that you'll feel a lot better.  It's easy, simply tell them you appreciate all they've done but now it's time to move on especially, when too many hands are in the pot.  If you are the boss, you are the boss.  Always give back to those who helped you if and when you can and who appreciate your friendship or business partnership. Have a great day.

In relationships it takes trust, honesty, and patience to work.  I am dealing with some issues because I can't see myself giving anyone my heart at this time.  I've had to go through a lot during the past two years and there is no space for love in my life other than my kids.  I had to let a relationship go because that person continued to believe everything he heard or thought he figured about me and was always or often wrong. Plus we had little privacy.  Maybe one day we'll talk about it.

Basically, I have a career in Communications and Mass Media that stems back to over 15+ years however, I don't reveal much of my exact experience.  I've had a lot of high profile persons and businesses approach me during the recent year however, they benefited from any business deals we engaged in.  I don't owe anyone any money or anything like that.  I'm under no contracts and I don't believe in being anyone's slave.  When people do business with me it has to be on the up and up.  I can't deal with people who are attempting to push me into a lifestyle I don't want by lying.  I'm strong.  I don't care what they say or do, I'm going to continue to fight to achieve my dreams, like we all should and not let them push their way of life on you.  That's their choice.  They need to grow up.  Some men feel because they are powerful that they hold your life in their hands.  Think twice before entering this field or starting your own business because not only will the gov't bother you at times, competition will stalk you and try and bring you down.  "Brush the dirt off your shoulder."  No, I don't have any cousins in the entertainment field that help me, I helped them.  Any singing groups or otherwise, was back in the day.  I haven't talked to those people in years.  I'm self made and God blessed. However, I've had a lot of support from people in the media and from a business partner.  No, I'm not looking and definitely not for sale.


Are You Terminally Ill?

No, Bella is not terminally ill.  She has no known diseases although many wish her dead.  We think this is common with people who are intimidated by others.  Though, she is very hurt by this, she continues to persevere.  Any illnesses she has is from electronic harassment which many people in the media suffer from though it is hard to detect.  For more information on this subject search i.e. electronic harassment or Leslie Crawford/victim online.  This method of torture via our journalist research is said to often cause and is directed to cause mental impairment or instability, personality alterations, memory loss, and disorientation.


How Do You Look When You're Around The House?

You don't want to know.  Face creams, thick eyebrows, unkempt hair.  Yep, all that.  I'm a little fat now because I'm always working at my desk but that's o.k.

Is it true Bella only dates celebrities or dates a lot of men?

No.  She has friends who are celebrities however, she had to break off one close relationship after people mainly men became so jealous of her seeing this person they kept trying to interfere with the friendship.  Bella was approached by a lot of high profile men while they were seeing eachother and trust was often an issue. They called me everything from ugly, to fat, to old.  But then, all celebrities or people in the industry are called something they're not or are, sooner or later. They hated the fact that he was that into me and I was into him as well.  It was always something.  Oh well. Just like guys hit on him, I've had women hit on me, but I'm not interested.  I'm straight, not bi.  Can we build some futures now?  To be quite honest, I've really been blessed despite the hters.  I've received more compliments than not.  Most hate appears to come from people from the past.  I don't know why that is.  I thought it would be the opposite.

Please feel free to email me more questions.  Aire.


Is it true Bella met the Pope?

No.  Although she respects the catholic profession, she has never spoken with anyone from the Pope's office.